Incest Defined
A compassionate exploration of what legally, psychologically and relationally qualifies as incest, why definitions matter, and how clarity can free survivors from shame and confusion.
Ethical Tools and Resources for Incest Recovery
Discover practical and compassionate tools for incest healing: exercises, psychoeducation strategies, dissociation guidelines, ethical somatic practices, referrals to specialists, and key research and literature recommendations.
Transforming the Cultural, Legal, and Interpersonal Structures that Allow Incest Abuse to Flourish
This article examines the systemic factors that enable incest and harm survivors. It covers legal and justice reform, the dangers of mandated reporting, cultural narrative change, advocacy and policy work, community education, and holding institutions accountable.
Trauma‑Informed Care for Incest Survivors
This article guides clinicians through the competencies required to support incest survivors. It covers therapist literacy, misdiagnosis prevention, ethics, contraindications, best practices, incest‑specific considerations, countertransference, role confusion, and vicarious trauma.
Building Safe and Supportive Relationships with Incest Survivors
This article explores how partners of incest survivors can provide safe support without becoming the therapist. It covers education, limits of a partner’s role, burnout, self‑care, therapy, and building relational safety.
The One
Once pealed, the flesh of the fruit always remains bare.
Sophie Scholl: A Moral Ancestor for Survivor Truth-Tellers
A survivor-centered reflection on Sophie Scholl as a moral ancestor, exploring empathy, empathic collapse, and why speaking truth (especially about incest) restores our shared humanity.
Life Reconstruction & Meaning Making After Incest Trauma
Beyond survival lies the possibility of a life built on agency, routine, purpose, and creativity. This article explores how survivors can reconstruct their lives through growing after trauma, building safe routines, reclaiming agency, establishing financial and career stability, working through grief, finding meaning and purpose, engaging in rituals and creativity, reconnecting spiritually, and integrating healing with personal growth.
Relational and Sexual Healing for Incest Survivors
Healing after incest extends into the heart of connection. This article explores how survivors can identify healthy versus unhealthy relationships, develop safe relationship skills, communicate needs, set boundaries, pace intimacy, and reclaim pleasure and consent. Partners and therapists learn to support survivors in this process.
Reparenting Your Inner Child & Identity Reconstruction for Incest Survivors
When the adults in your life failed you, learning to parent yourself becomes a path to wholeness. This article explores reparenting and identity reconstruction: connecting with your inner child, rebuilding self‑concept and self‑trust, repairing shame, rewriting your story, and forming a post‑traumatic identity grounded in agency and truth.
Therapeutic Modalities (Internal Work)
No single therapy fits all, but certain modalities have emerged as powerful allies for incest survivors. This article outlines evidence‑informed therapies—IFS, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, TF‑CBT, DBT, Ego‑State Therapy, Trauma‑Informed Sex Therapy, and Group & Relational Therapy, and offers guidance on choosing the right fit.
Run Too
Just a little truth about what it feels like to love someone who isn’t able to choose you.
Common Theoretical Questions About Holey Theory
You are not broken. You are organized around survival. Holey Theory explains why trauma reshapes identity, why insight alone doesn’t heal, and how coherence can be rebuilt; lawfully, measurably, and without shame.
Common Philosophical Questions About Holey Theory
Holey Theory raises profound philosophical questions about free will, the soul, trauma, and meaning. This in-depth article answers the most common objections and inquiries, clarifying how trauma disrupts coherence, how healing restores agency, and why meaning emerges through integration rather than suffering itself.
Philosophical Questions Raised by Holey Theory
Holey Theory invites philosophical objection precisely because it crosses disciplinary boundaries. This counterpoint article examines the strongest critiques (entropy misuse, metaphysical excess, threats to free will, and romanticization of suffering) and demonstrates why the model remains conceptually coherent, ethically grounded, and philosophically defensible.
The Philosophical Implications of Holey Theory
Holey Theory reframes trauma as an entropic rupture within the self-system and healing as a negentropic process of reintegration. This philosophical model challenges traditional views of free will, suffering, and the soul, offering a trauma-informed framework in which agency expands with coherence, meaning emerges through integration, and the soul functions as an organizing attractor rather than a damaged essence.
Ignore Me
Just some thoughts on being ignored, and the lesson it taught me.
Somatic & Nervous System Healing for Incest Survivors
Your body holds the stories your mind cannot speak. This article explores somatic and nervous system healing practices (grounding, vagal toning, pendulation, movement therapies, breathwork, and neurofeedback) that help survivors reconnect with their bodies and release stored trauma.
Trauma Literacy & Reframing After Incest
When survivors understand the logic of their responses, shame begins to soften. This article guides readers through trauma literacy (the gentle education that reframes symptoms as survival strategies) and offers ways to shift self‑blame into compassionate understanding.
Spiritual & Existential Impact of Incest Trauma
Trauma can shake the foundations of belief and meaning. This article explores how incest trauma affects spirituality, trust in goodness and self, existential grief, moral injury, and the journey toward reconnection with one’s own spirit.
Reenactment & Relationship Patterns After Incest Trauma
When pain is familiar, we often repeat it without knowing. This article unpacks the cyclical relationship patterns survivors of incest may replay (from power imbalances to emotional reenactments) and offers compassionate pathways to interrupt these loops.
Behavioral & Functional Impacts of Incest Trauma
Incest trauma leaves imprints on daily functioning and coping strategies. This article examines patterns like perfectionism, addiction, overworking, disordered eating, self‑harm, and financial or relational sabotage, framing them as adaptive responses and offering pathways toward balanced self‑care.
Sexual & Romantic Consequences of Incest Trauma
Incest wounds touch the deepest parts of intimacy. This article explores how incest trauma shapes desire, arousal, boundaries, and connection, validating the wide range of responses from sexual shutdown to compulsive behaviors and offering gentle pathways toward reclaiming embodied sexuality.
Relational & Attachment Injury from Incest Trauma
Attachment betrayal fractures the foundations of trust and intimacy. This article explores how incest trauma disrupts relational patterns, attachment styles, and the ability to feel safe with others, offering hope for connection grounded in choice and respect.