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Love & Sex After Incest

by Candice Brazil

Sexuality, Intimacy & Reclamation

Sex after incest trauma is complicated. Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget, and your nervous system reacts long before you have a chance to think. Learn why sex can trigger panic, numbness, shutdown, or confusion, and how to reclaim your sexuality on your own terms, without shame, pressure, or self-betrayal.

Relationships, Attachment & Love

When the people who were supposed to protect you were the ones who caused you harm, love becomes tangled with danger, confusion, longing, and fear. Learn to unravels the patterns that incest trauma creates in adult relationships: why you cling, why you shut down, why you choose emotionally unavailable partners, why boundaries feel threatening, and why safe love can feel foreign or overwhelming.

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. I am a trauma survivor. If you need help, please seek the services of a licensed professional (see my Resources Page for suggestions). The contents of this website are for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Information on this page might not be accurate or up-to-date. Accordingly, this page should not be used as a diagnosis of any medical illness, mental or physical. This page is also not a substitute for professional counseling, therapy, or any other type of medical advice.  Some topics discussed on this website could be upsetting. If you are triggered by this website’s content you should seek the services of a trained and licensed professional.