What Healing from Incest Really Looks Like
Healing isn’t becoming someone new. It’s remembering who you were before the world taught you to forget yourself.
Why You Reenact the Old Pain of Incest Trauma in New Love
You don’t repeat old pain because you’re broken, you repeat it because your nervous system is trying to resolve a wound it wasn’t safe enough to understand the first time.
Understanding the Responses to Incest Trauma: Fight, Flight, Flee, Fawn
Your trauma responses are not flaws, they are the brilliant survival codes your body created to protect you long before you had words for what was happening.
How Incest Trauma Shapes the Brain
Childhood trauma doesn’t just hurt, it rewires the brain’s architecture, shaping how survivors think, feel, remember, and relate long after the danger is gone.
Why Incest Leaves the Deepest Scars
Incest leaves the deepest scars because it destroys the blueprint of trust at the exact moment a child is learning who they are, what love means, and how relationships work.
What is Incest Trauma?
Incest trauma is not a single event but an entire environment, one where love, safety, and danger collide, leaving lifelong impacts on the brain, body, and sense of self.
A World Unheard and Unseen: A Poem for the Silenced Soul
A raw and haunting poem about the lifelong echoes of incest trauma, the silence, the disbelief, the isolation, and the unbearable search for a voice in a world that refuses to listen. It speaks to the survivors who ever wondered if their pain mattered.
What Incest Survivors Wish Non-Survivors Understood About How Incest Trauma Alters Your Thoughts, Feelings, Body, and Relationships
The Genius of Dr. Allan Schore
Dr. Allan Schore work bridges neuroscience, attachment theory, and psychoanalysis, helping us see how early relational trauma literally wires the brain for survival, and how, through safe connection, it can rewire for healing.
What Ellert Nijenhuis Taught Us About Dissociation and the Incest Survivor’s Journey Home
Potential Sources of Bitterness, Envy, and Resentment in Incest Survivors
For incest survivors, love can be both our deepest longing and our biggest trigger. Watching others experience the kind of tenderness we were deprived of can feel like a cruel joke. But that ache? It’s not bitterness. It’s the heart remembering what it was meant to receive.
Understanding “Objectlessness” in Incest Survivors
How to Speak Your Safety Needs Without Shame
For incest survivors, their abuser’s needs always came first. Communicating needs wasn’t safe and therefore becomes a skill we must practice.
Safety Needs: Why Incest Survivors Require More to Feel Secure in Love
For incest survivors, safety goes far beyond the basics. This article is written for those who love survivors and want to understand why we sometimes ask for things that seem excessive to someone who hasn’t lived through what we have.
Men Want Peace, Incest Survivors Need Safety
Incest survivors need to feel safe in their relationship before there can ever be peace.
Why Self-Love Can Be Difficult for Incest Survivors
When love once meant pain, learning to love yourself becomes an act of rebellion and rebirth.
Unique Dynamics of Incestuous Abuse
Understand why incest trauma feels different, and why healing from it requires a different kind of compassion.
Distorted Core Beliefs About Love, Power, Sex, Trust, and Self-Worth After Incest
Incest deeply distorts a survivor’s core beliefs about love, power, sex, trust, and self-worth, shaping survival adaptations that feel like truths but keep them trapped in pain and shame.
Healing the Distorted Beliefs Left by Incest Trauma
How incest survivors can begin healing the deeply rooted, distorted beliefs left by trauma by reconnecting with truth, self-worth, and embodied safety.
An Ideal Partner for an Incest Survivor
The essential qualities of a romantic partner who supports healing from incest trauma.
Partner Traits That Can Retraumatize Incest Survivors
Certain emotional, sexual, and relational behaviors in romantic partners can retraumatize incest survivors by mirroring the dynamics of their original abuse.
Boundary Medicine
My boundaries are not negotiable—they are essential tools for safety, self-worth, and emotional healing.
The Psychological and Emotional Toll of Incest Trauma
Incest trauma doesn’t just wound the body , it fractures the spirit, distorts self-worth, and steals the safety every child deserves. Healing begins the moment we stop hiding the truth and start honoring the courage it takes to face it.