You and I both know that surviving wasn’t the hard part, living afterward was. The body remembers what the mind tries to forget, and unresolved trauma has a way of weaving itself into everything: how you love, how you trust, how you show up in your own life. For years, I lived inside the remnants of my trauma without even realizing it. I thought I was the problem. I thought I was “too much,” “too sensitive,” “too broken,” or “unlovable.” In reality, my nervous system was still carrying experiences that were never mine to hold.

This page exists because you deserve a space that finally makes sense. A space that doesn’t minimize, sugarcoat, or tell you to “just move on.” A space created by someone who knows what it’s like to claw their way out of a trauma coma and ask, “Who am I without this pain?”

Here, you’ll find guidance shaped by survivors, informed by research, and softened with compassion, because healing requires all three. And yes, we sprinkle in a little humor when the soul gets too heavy; trauma may have rearranged our insides, but it didn’t take our ability to laugh at the absurdity of what we survived.

Most importantly, this space was built with one truth in mind: your story deserves to be understood, your voice deserves to be heard, your pain deserves to be acknowledged, and your healing deserves to be honored.

1. Understanding The Trauma of Incest – A deeply compassionate, research-informed guide that explains what incest trauma is, why it leaves such profound emotional and physical scars, and how your brain and body adapted to survive the unimaginable.
2. How Incest Trauma Shows Up in Your Adult Life – A research-informed guide explaining how childhood incest trauma affects adult identity, emotions, relationships, and daily functioning; covering shame, emotional flashbacks, numbing, brain fog, chronic symptoms, people-pleasing, and much more.
3. Healing Your Relationship With Yourself – A guide for survivors of incest trauma on rebuilding relationship with self, covering body safety, reconnecting with sensations, healing shame, reclaiming your voice, and inner child/parts work.
4. Relationships, Attachment & Love – A guide explaining how incest trauma shapes attachment, boundaries, partner choice, emotional availability, and relationship patterns, helping survivors build safe, healthy, trauma-informed love.
5. Sexuality, Intimacy & Reclamation – A compassionate guide for survivors navigating sexuality, dissociation, triggers, reenactment, arousal confusion, and reclaiming sexual autonomy after incest.
6. Family, Culture & Breaking the Cycle – A trauma-informed guide for incest survivors on understanding toxic family systems, navigating guilt and loyalty, going no contact, breaking generational cycles, and creating a chosen family rooted in safety and truth.
7. Healing Tools, Skills & Daily Practices – A trauma-informed guide offering grounding tools, emotional regulation skills, dissociation awareness, nervous system practices, daily routines, and self-trust strategies for survivors of incest trauma.
8. Your Long-Term Healing Journey – A guide for incest survivors on long-term healing, identity reconstruction, post-traumatic growth, meaning-making, community, advocacy, self-love, and building a future beyond trauma.

Incest survivors often start their healing journey overwhelmed with confusion, self-blame, and fragmented understanding. Get the clarity and validation you never received.

Most survivors don’t realize their patterns are rooted in trauma, not personality.

The core of recovery is rebuilding the connection between your mind, body, emotions, and identity.

Survivors often struggle in relationships because their survival strategies activate automatically.

Learn about one of the most complex, painful, and often shame-filled areas of healing.

Survivors struggle with guilt, obligation, secrecy, and internalized family rules.

Learn about evidence-based strategies and discover trauma-informed tools.

Learn about integration, identity, purpose, and becoming whole.