Incest trauma doesn’t just hurt, it shapes your nervous system, fractures your identity, and alters the way you experience yourself and the world. Learn the truth behind your reactions, your memories, your feelings, and your pain, so you can stop blaming yourself for …
Below is a full-book, chapter-by-chapter summary. The core concepts are distilled, and along with their direct applications for incest trauma, its long-term effects, why it’s so hard to heal, and what healing actually requires. Trauma deserves reverence. Neuroscience…
Healing isn’t becoming someone new. It’s remembering who you were before the world taught you to forget yourself.
You don’t repeat old pain because you’re broken, you repeat it because your nervous system is trying to resolve a wound it wasn’t safe enough to understand the first time.
Your trauma responses are not flaws, they are the brilliant survival codes your body created to protect you long before you had words for what was happening.
Childhood trauma doesn’t just hurt, it rewires the brain’s architecture, shaping how survivors think, feel, remember, and relate long after the danger is gone.
Incest leaves the deepest scars because it destroys the blueprint of trust at the exact moment a child is learning who they are, what love means, and how relationships work.
Incest trauma is not a single event but an entire environment, one where love, safety, and danger collide, leaving lifelong impacts on the brain, body, and sense of self.
Dr. Allan Schore work bridges neuroscience, attachment theory, and psychoanalysis, helping us see how early relational trauma literally wires the brain for survival, and how, through safe connection, it can rewire for healing.
For incest survivors, love can be both our deepest longing and our biggest trigger. Watching others experience the kind of tenderness we were deprived of can feel like a cruel joke. But that ache? It’s not bitterness. It’s the heart remembering what it was meant to …
Object Relations Theory & The Hollow Spaces Inside Us When we grow up, the people who raise us become mirrors, our first reflections of love, safety, and belonging. They are our “objects,” as Object Relations Theory calls them, not in the cold, inanimate sense of…
When love once meant pain, learning to love yourself becomes an act of rebellion and rebirth.
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